It is natural to grieve the loss of family members and others we know, as we adjust to living without their presence and missing them as part of our lives. The death of a loved one, or even someone we were not close to, can be a painful event. As time goes on and the people we know die,we are also reminded of our own inevitable end and that everything is transient and impermanent.
While there are similarities among us, the grieving experience is different for everyone who experiences it. For the dying, they may (or may not) go through Kubler-Ross’s “5 Stages of Grief” : denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance and while appropriate for those dying, those stages do not define the bereavement process.
For those who have lost a loved one, there are no set “stages”. Bereavement is a normal reaction to loss in human beings in virtually every culture across the world. There are no established rules for how long “normal” bereavement lasts, as each person and each loss is very different. One never truly “get’s over” the loss of a loved one. Rather, in time, one learns to incorporate the loss into one’s life. A Japanese poem refers to loss as “cracks in a beautiful bowl” that in time, become filled with gold. Loss, as odd as it may sound, can open one’s heart and life to new and different possibilities. Catherine has experience in working with client’s who have experienced difficult losses, and can guide you through yours.
The meeting of people who have a shared experience, grief included, can be enormously helpful to the grieving. The group setting encourages both sharing and a sense of community, both of which are seriously impacted after a major loss, especially the loss of a partner. Groups also help with one major complaint of grievers – loneliness.
We run grief groups on an as needed basis. Please contact Catherine at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information and start times for groups.